I saw a post on Tumblr with the following tweet and below the tweet, a
compilation of photos of attractive celebrities (Taylor Swift, Nicki Minaj, Beyonce,
Rihanna, Emma Watson, Angelina Jolie, Amy Poehler, Tina Fey, and two girl
groups that I don’t recognize).
Beneath the pictures were comments such as “Can I be this ugly then?”
The photos of the attractive celebrities, all of whom have identified as
feminists, send the message that obviously the tweeter is wrong and feminists
are attractive.
The problem with this is that it shouldn’t matter whether a feminist is
attractive or not. Feminism is about promoting the idea that women should have the
same rights and opportunities as men. It's not a beauty contest. You don't need to be attractive or pretty or beautiful to want women to have equal rights.
This tends to pit women against each other actually.
There was also a thing in 2014 where the hashtag #feministsareugly was
started. Many feminists assumed that it was created by a misogynistic troll and tweeted selfies, particularly selfies of them looking attractive.
This ended up being criticized, as shown in this link
One response said, "Taking over #FeministsAreUgly is great, but I also think we're missing an opportunity to have a nuanced conversation about what "ugly" means."
This makes me think of the whole plus size argument in regards to plus size models, where people say the model doesn't look plus size, or looks too good to be called plus size. People get into an uproar when someone is called fat or plus size or ugly- but only when they disagree with the level of attractiveness of the person.
It's just interesting how attacking someone's appearance becomes the first line of offense when attacking someone's political or social viewpoints. It's also seen in random memes on Facebook about liberal democrat women vs. conservative Republican women (obviously Laura Bush is way prettier than Michelle Obama, according to my crazy uncle.)
In one of our class meetings, we watched a documentary on poverty. Families lived on very little money and opened their doors to cameras to document what it was like to be poor.
The controversy in the clas came when a family, who could barely afford to feed their children, ended up getting pregnant again and keeping the child. They said they didn't believe in abortion, which is understandable, but there were several people who pointed out that adoption was an option and that it was selfish to bring another mouth to feed into a home that was already struggling.
It led to a heated discussion on whether it was okay to police what the poor did with their families and their bodies and their lives.
Someone mentioned the nails of one mother and having the money for that.
In class, I commented that her nails could have been free, full price or discounted. She could have bought the supplies earlier and done them herself, had a friend do them, or get them from Walmart. We don't know what they pay for things and how they pay and unless we are writing their checks, we have no room to judge or comment on it.
The whole discussion on people living in poverty made me think of this clip from the Daily Show where a Fox News commentator tells a Daily Show correspondent that the poor should stop being poor.
The discussion over how the families spent their money also made me think of several articles I read on limiting how people on welfare can spend their money.
In one article, it says, "I have seen people purchasing filet mignons and crab legs with their EBT cards," Rick Brattin, the lawmaker proposing the bill,
told The Washington Post. "When I can't afford it on my pay, I don't want people on the taxpayers' dime to afford those kinds of foods either."
This goes back to the point I made in class about how unless we're the ones actually doing their budgeting for them or writing their checks or whatever, we have no idea how they actually spend their money and whether they bought an item at regular retail
price, got it on sale or received it as a free gift. People on food stamps often are working while receiving them. In order to receive food stamps, you have be making below a certain amount, showing need for the assistance. Depending on the state and the income
level and I believe the size of the family, each family gets a certain amount each month on their card. I doubt that steak or lobster are every day purchases, but even if they were, that amount is still spent from the initial amount given. If the lawmaker
is saying they can't afford the steak or lobster, that's on them and they are the ones choosing not to spend however many dollars on meat.
I know people who are on food stamps and WIC (they're expecting a baby this summer) and the items that they can and can't get are limited to certain brands or certain food items and they have to spend it because while it will rollover, if they
don't use enough of them, they run the chance of losing the benefit of food stamps. And they end up with a decreased amount over time.
I recently saw another post on tumblr about the phrase "Don't let cancer steal second base!" and decided to make that my next blog topic.
Naturally, someone commented their outrage over women with a deadly disease being belittled to mere body parts and said, "HOW ABOUT DON’T LET CANCER STEAL WOMEN’S LIVES
BECAUSE WOMEN AREN’T JUST BOOBS THEY’RE PEOPLE JESUS CHRIST."
Those are similar to my thoughts exactly.
My brother, who is 2 years older than me, used to wear a burnt orange Save the Boobies bracelet. I didn't pay much attention to it until I came across several posts that spelled it out for me how problematic this was. They explained how it is mostly men who are advocating for women to save their breasts by checking for lumps. Save their breasts. Not Save their lives. They used catchy slogans such as "Save the Boobies", "Save Second Base", etc. Nothing is mentioned about the woman to whom the breasts are attached to.
This comic came after Angelina Jolie elected to have a double mastectomy.
Another thing was pointed out in this article about how Breast Cancer is the third leading killer of women, behind heart disease and lung cancer, but it receives 15 times more funding than heart disease. The article says, "Breast cancer is marketable because sex sells. Breast cancer is
perceived as the absolute worst kind of cancer because of its
implications. The possibility that a woman might lose her breasts, which
in our society is tied to a woman’s value, naturally garners more
attention."
I'm trying to picture the reverse, if women sexualized men and colon cancer or testicular cancer and used catchy sayings that also doubled as innuendo. I don't see it in the media or online or hear about it and I have a hard time picturing it gaining the same popularity as the breast cancer and boobs have.
On social media, women who post pictures of their chests after a mastectomy have their pictures taken down. They have their breast feeding pictures taken down or are ridiculed if they choose to breastfeed in public. It's all about saving the tatas or boobies and paying homage to them until they are used for anything besides sex.
I hope I've instilled in my older brother a number of things regarding gender and feminism and I hope he understands why Save The BOOBIES/ Save the TATAS/etc are problematic, even though they raise money.
So Sports Illustrated made "history" by including a plus size swimsuit advertisement in their Swimsuit Edition for the first time ever, as well as featuring their first ever Plus Size model.
It was mentioned in class, when the picture in the magazine was shown, that the model isn't plus sized, she's "normal" sized.
I would agree but I think that it should still be celebrated that they've deviated from their standard size 2/4 swimsuit model.
When you compare Sports Illustrated swimsuit models, or even Victoria's Secret models, to the typical fashion runway models, the one thing that stands out is that, while they are all still relatively thin and the same size, the swimsuit and underwear models are curvier. They have achieved the unattainable and have both a flat stomach and somewhat large breasts.
The average woman in the U.S. does not look like that. The average woman is a size 14 with a cup size of a 34DD, which is a sister size to a 36D and the size women are more likely to find in Walmart.
You'd think that more people would want to see models that look like them rather than the 6' tall, size 2 or 4 models we see everywhere we look.
My minor is Merchandising with an emphasis in Fashion. One of the required classes is Fashion Theory. In that class, we got to talking about size. The professor showed pictures of our favorite Disney Princesses but instead of their usual tiny selves, they were very very very fat. So fat they were actually round in shape. Everyone laughed and someone said, "Obviously, we don't want our cartoon characters to look like that. That promotes an unhealthy lifestyle." For me personally, it was an awkward moment and I kept my mouth shut but my initial thoughts were that showing someone who is fat is not promoting ANYTHING. It gives representation to a group of people who actually exist.
The next topic was of the different body shapes that were held up as ideal throughout history. During the Middle Ages, women wore clothing and padding that made them look pregnant as that meant they were fertile and healthy, which was important considering most died way early.
In the 1600s, or the Baroque period, there was an artist named Peter Paul Rubens. His paintings of full-figured women, with large hips and thighs and stomachs and smaller breasts, gave way to the term "Rubenesque".
His paintings were extremely detailed and showed all the flaws, including the dimples on the thighs and buttocks and the rolls on the stomachs.
Our professor showed the following picture to the class.
The class was fairly large- with about 100-150 students I want to say. It was held in Curry Hall in one of the lecture halls on the first floor if that helps any.
The makeup of the class was mostly female, with about 20 or so males. The sizes of the women ranged from probably a size 0 all the way to a size 20 or 22, but most of the women in the class were between a size 0 and 9.
One girl, who looked like she would wear a size Small, sitting in the middle of the class with about five larger sized women, myself included, around her, saw the picture and said, "EWWW. That's DISGUSTING."
The whole class got silent. I was shocked because she had a plus size women to the left of her, to the right of her, behind her (that'd be me), and diagonal in front of her. She essentially said that, at the very least, all of us looked disgusting, never mind the fact that cellulite, which I assume is what she was referring to, doesn't just appear on larger sized women but also smaller sized women.
The professor said, "That's how you feel. Some people like cellulite. Some people don't care that they have it. I saw a skinny girl walking around earlier wearing short shorts, showing off her cellulite. More power to her. I couldn't do that," and quickly moved on.
In another Merchandising class, Fashion Forecasting, we were talking about fads and trends in clothing. I was one of maybe 4 or 5 people in this class of about 50 or 60 that would be considered fat or plus size. I went up to the professor and asked about fads and trends in plus size fashion because that subset of fashion tends to be late. She said that most plus size fashion brands and stores focus on basics because that's what the customer base wants.
Wrong. I'd love floral print and the cute trends but the only things I can find that fit me are for grandmas or strippers.
We talked about swimwear. Someone brought up plus size swimwear and the lack of it.
"I think there's not a market for it because plus size women don't like going to beach and wearing swimsuits because they don't like their bodies," some thin girl said.
I love the beach. Everyone I know who is plus size also loves the beach. Beach loving is not limited to a size.
I don't however like wearing a swimsuit that my 80 year old grandma would wear, nor do I want to wear a swimsuit that makes me look like I'm in a porno. Sadly, until recently, that has been the case.
Plus size women like the beach and they like their bodies. Companies who sell only senior swimwear for anyone above a size 12 are the ones not listening.
Swimsuitsforall, the company behind the plus size swimsuit ad in Sports Illustrated, featured above, teamed up with Gabi Fresh, the plus size blogger who coined the term "Fatkini" in 2012, to release more fatkinis, or bikinis on fat bodies. The first round of bikinis and other swimwear released in 2013 and the campaign enlisted the help of fellow plus size bloggers, Nadia Aboulhosn and Maxey Greene, and the galaxy print one ended up selling out.
A swimsuit that wasn't a tankini or a one piece that actually provided support for top heavy women and coverage on the bottom and it came in a cute print.
For 2015, they teamed up again and released another collection with fun, YOUNG, cute prints.
In class, someone pointed out how the men in the video ad are all hot and attractive still. You can also see the same thing in the last picture of Gabi.
I would argue that this isn't necessarily a bad thing. Thin women get paired with both attractive and fit men as well as fat and ugly men quite often. It's used quite often in movies and TV shows. When there is a plus size woman on screen, she is often either paired with a thin man, who is deemed average, or a man of the same size or larger. Rarely do we see her with a buff, hot looking man. This leads you to believe that a buff, attractive guy won't ever find a fat woman attractive or that if he does, he has a fat fetish.
This is disheartening to say the least. I think one show that actually doesn't follow this trope is My Mad Fat Diary, which has a normal sized, attractive guy attracted to/ in love with the fat girl.
As someone who is on the lower end of plus size, and has difficulty finding clothes that I like and that fit, and as someone who was insulted and teased for my weight and size, I think that I'll desperately take representation anyway I can.
This year at the Academy Awards, there was a a movement called #AskHerMore, started by Amy Poehler's Smart Girls earlier this year for the Golden Globes.
The gist of it is to have the interviewers ask the actresses questions about more than just their dresses and makeup and accessories.
It should be simple enough but it's received backlash. I've seen several comments from both men and women saying that the actresses wear fancy dresses for a reason.
Yes, I can see a reason for acknowledging the designer of the dress. Dozens of people worked to put together the ensemble we end up seeing on the red carpet and they should be acknowledged.
I want to write about beauty and fashion and get paid to do it. I think
that there is a field for this and there are people interested in what
or who celebrities are wearing but I also think that there are dozens of
fashion and beauty bloggers/writers dedicated to covering this. Even
ones who communicate with the stylists of the celebrities. So
reporters for ET or E! or whoever can DEFINITELY focus their attention
to asking these actresses questions of
the same caliber they do the actors. I don't understand why people are
so against this movement. There isn't going to be a shortage of fashion
and beauty coverage, believe me. You've got People, People Style Watch,
Glamour, Marie Claire, Lucky, Allure, Elle, Vogue, and all the gossip
magazines with full spreads dedicated to the dresses and the shoes and
the lipstick and the hair and the jewelry. Asking the stylist who did the dress and asking the actress what the most challenging thing was shouldn't be mutually exclusive. This video shows the ridiculous questions actresses are asked on the red carpet. From "Who are you wearing?" to "Did you wear undergarments?" they make these women out to be nothing more than walking trophies.
Like I said, I can see that there is an interest in fashion and beauty. There are publications devoted solely to it. Let's let them focus on that and allow other publications to focus on the people themselves and the work they do.
When I was younger, I wanted my name to be Veronica or Vivian. My mother had the name Brittany picked out before I was even thought of so I would always have the name Brittany, though. My last name is Fholer, pronounced like Kohler but with an F. The number of teachers and just people in general who have mispronounced it, either when trying to read it or after hearing me say it, is too many to count. If I had a dollar for every time my last name was mispronounced, I might be able to pay for textbooks or a portion of my tuition and fees here at UNT.
In one of our classes, someone brought up the guy named Jose who dropped the "S" from his name on job applications. His last name is Zamora. Jose Zamora couldn't get a response back but Joe Zamora could. The power that a first name has. Someone mentioned that they knew someone who named their daughter a certain name because she wanted her to be employable.
I can't fathom ever planning my child's name around that. I thought I understood having a hard to pronounce name and the repercussions of that. I realize though that this is nothing compared to what other people have to go through.
The whole topic of names, and specifically names in the African-American community, made me think of Quvenzhane Wallis, from Southern Beasts in the Wild and Annie, and Uzo Aduba, from Orange is the New Black.
Quvenzhane is pronounced Kwuh-Venn-Zhuh-Nay. She's currently 11 years old but when she came into the spotlight, she was around 8 or 9. The first part of her name, Quven, is a mix of her parents' names- Qulyndreia and Venjie, while, "zhane" is Swahili for "fairy". The hate and animosity she's received because of her name, and the number of adults who have made fun of her name, is alarming. She isn't the only child in the U.S., or the world, with a unique name.
Uzo Aduba's full name is Uzoamaka Nwaneka Aduba. She told Seth Meyers a story about her wanting to change her name when she was little (starting around 1:04).
She wanted to change her name to Zoe because Uzoamaka was difficult to pronounce. Her mother told her, "If they can learn to say Tchaikovsky, Dostoyevsky, and Michelangelo, they can learn to say Uzoamaka."
It's the perfect come back, in my opinion, to any argument about a name that might be more difficult to pronounce.
I think race plays a part in this conversation, obviously. The idea that there are black parents who are torn on whether to give their child an African name with wonderful meaning or give them a white sounding name so they can fit in isn't right. Brittany means "Of Britain." There is no meaning to that name, and there's not really anything wrong with choosing a name because you like the sound of it. But when people are looked down upon because their name, which was likely chosen because it has a bigger meaning, then it becomes an issue.
I think one way to help this is to recognize that there are celebrities who aren't changing their names to make them easier to pronounce, as shown in this link.
I must admit that I already have somewhat of an awareness of gender and race and representation, albeit a fairly recent one (it's only been since high school and up so about eight or nine years, but more concretely four years or so). I am especially interested in representation in politics.
I identify as a feminist and as a more liberally minded person, which drives my Fox News watching, conservative, white, middle-aged man of a father crazy. He actually unfriended me on Facebook because I kept posting links and sharing posts that he didn't agree with (aka that weren't from Fox News or The Blaze or other like-minded conservative media).
I think the reason I have these views is 1) because I took an Old and New Testament class the same semesters I took American Government classes, and during election season and 2) because I am a woman who was raised by a single working mother.
In our first class, we discussed schemas and stereotypes and something that popped into my head was a conversation I had with my father, in the IHOP by UNT, about police and minorities and about Wendy Davis being labeled as Abortion Barbie (which is apparently not normal breakfast conversation material, if the looks I got from neighboring tables were anything to go by).
It was right before the grand jury returned no indictment for Darren Wilson in the death of Michael Brown and my dad, being a retired police officer, sided with the police side while I, being someone who could admit there was corruption among police and saw various reports and eyewitness tweets and statements over discrepancies in the events leading up to the shooting and the investigation afterwards, sided with the other side.
My dad worked as a cop for 20-plus years, almost 30 years, in Killeen, Texas.
Google Killeen. I swear, no one actually likes living there, they just do it because it's cheap or because they work there. It's the 21st most populous city in Texas and has a racial makeup of 45% white, 34% black, 22% Hispanic/Latino and the rest being Asian or Native American or "Other."
The police force of Killeen is actually more diverse than that of Ferguson and the relationship between KPD and the residents of Killeen is much much better than that of FPD and Ferguson residents.
I'd been told many times before by my dad or my mom about my dad that he dealt with a lot of "shady" people and other criminals, who happened to be black, thus shaping his view on a certain "type" of black person. The only thing my dad said about Killeen was that it was ghetto and full of ghetto people. My understanding is that if a black person acts the way a white person would act, he has no problem with them. The moment they delve from the approved behavior, his disdain shows, if not publicly then privately.
On the other hand, he's talked about how one of the best police officers he's ever had the pleasure of working with was a woman. A black woman. A black woman who was gay. It sounds to me like that fallback that people have to prove they aren't racist, "My best friend is black!"
It was interesting to hear about schemas and stereotypes, especially with recent events, because I think a lot of times when talking to people about these news events, there are those who think all black men are "thugs" but when a white person does the same thing or worse, kills a bunch of people, they are labeled as a troubled soul. It's actually disheartening and frustrating to see.
